(Taken from my 20sb.com blog)
As most of my closest friends, as well as closest family know, I am a homosexual.
Now with this title comes a lot of negative stereotypes and astigmatisms
Fag, Queer, Gay, Fudgepacker, Faggot, Sissy, Nancyboi, Dicksucker, Cocksucker, etc.
But let's put those aside for now.
Here is my problem: Sustaining a nonsexual friendship within the gay community.
I have yet to meet many gay guys who are not willing to just mess around or have sex with their friends.
Why is this?
Sure I know we're guys, and guys have a very high sex drive... but should that contradict morals?
I know I've gone through my phases and such, like most guys whether hetero or homo do, but seriously some guys do not grow out of these phases and I am beginning to see it everyday more and more.
When it was pointed out (ignorantly, mind you) by my parents that gay guys sleep with guys because it's just what they do, I came to realise that that stereotype was in place for a reason.
This saddens me, because there are guys out there, like myself, that have grown up, developed some morals, and wish for JUST friends.
Horny? Throw on some fucking porn, don't do your friends.
That's disrespectful, and degrading.
It's so sad that I could have so much fun hanging out with someone as a friend who is gay, and then he pops the question of whether or not I want to mess around sometime, or even that night! Wow man, have we come that far? That it's safe to assume anyone attractive is willing to just mess around?
I don't know, it's just frustrating, and I'm sure very few people will read this but I had to just get it out... my frustrations that is.
So I write to you, and ask you... is there a chance? Is there much chance that two gay guys could be strictly friends with no sexual tension?
Because I'm finding it harder and harder to find any guys like this, and it's frustrating.
Whatever enough ranting to Massive Attack: Beautiful Drug
As most of my closest friends, as well as closest family know, I am a homosexual.
Now with this title comes a lot of negative stereotypes and astigmatisms
Fag, Queer, Gay, Fudgepacker, Faggot, Sissy, Nancyboi, Dicksucker, Cocksucker, etc.
But let's put those aside for now.
Here is my problem: Sustaining a nonsexual friendship within the gay community.
I have yet to meet many gay guys who are not willing to just mess around or have sex with their friends.
Why is this?
Sure I know we're guys, and guys have a very high sex drive... but should that contradict morals?
I know I've gone through my phases and such, like most guys whether hetero or homo do, but seriously some guys do not grow out of these phases and I am beginning to see it everyday more and more.
When it was pointed out (ignorantly, mind you) by my parents that gay guys sleep with guys because it's just what they do, I came to realise that that stereotype was in place for a reason.
This saddens me, because there are guys out there, like myself, that have grown up, developed some morals, and wish for JUST friends.
Horny? Throw on some fucking porn, don't do your friends.
That's disrespectful, and degrading.
It's so sad that I could have so much fun hanging out with someone as a friend who is gay, and then he pops the question of whether or not I want to mess around sometime, or even that night! Wow man, have we come that far? That it's safe to assume anyone attractive is willing to just mess around?
I don't know, it's just frustrating, and I'm sure very few people will read this but I had to just get it out... my frustrations that is.
So I write to you, and ask you... is there a chance? Is there much chance that two gay guys could be strictly friends with no sexual tension?
Because I'm finding it harder and harder to find any guys like this, and it's frustrating.
Whatever enough ranting to Massive Attack: Beautiful Drug
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4 people commented:
Wow, the thought never occured to me. That must be a bummer. I guess it happens to us ladies as well. We kinda get that problem when we make friends with men. They dont always have the balls to say it out loud but we know they think it...and once they realise theres no chance in hell, they stop being friends. No fair!
I don't think that you should necessarily turn a guy down just because he's a friend of yours. If you have sexual chemistry with one of your friends, well, that's a potential boyfriend, isn't it? It's not immoral to pursue that. Many of the best romantic relationships developed out of friendships.
Also, hi. I'm Junior. I just started reading your blog today.
I understand where you're coming from Nathan but I'm more talking about when it's established STRICTLY sex, like friends of yours who do NOT want a relationship.
And besides, I'm not pursuing a relationshipp and whatnot because I just want friends and I'm currently head over heels for a particular person :)
wha!-o I'm excited to read of any developments with this "particular person" in future entries!
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